One of the best dances for developing good partnership skills is the Tango. The necessity for clean lines, strong striding movements, brisk changes of direction, staccato footwork and flicks,all make tango a fun and dramatic dance, but also one of the most challenging. You can't get away with poor leading or sloppy following in tango.
In ballroom and other social dancing, a successful dance partnership is not based on the gentleman and lady each giving a 50/50 percent effort; instead the only way for the dance to work – to look seamless and beautiful – is for BOTH parties to put in 100 percent effort. Lately, I have been pondering how much this concept parallels other relationships (dating, marriage, business), as well as our relationship with Jesus with him as the leader and us as the followers.
Let me demonstrate.
On the social dance scene, this is how to tell a 50/50 partnership – there will be a lot of pushing and pulling and resistance. The dancers are more focused on themselves, and showing themselves off, than about their partner. This could look like:
To compare, a dancing couple exhibiting a 100/100 partnership looks like this:
I think there is a tendency to look at Jesus as a 50/50 partner in our lives; when in reality he is always giving 100 percent. We are the ones who fall short.
In closing, there is an interesting fact that a good follower can dance at a higher level (more complicated dance patterns) than she has actually learned. However, a leader can only dance those patterns he has learned to lead – and so he always dances at his own level.
Remember that God is the perfect leader. He created dancing in the first place! He knows all the dances, and all the steps in our lives. When we focus on becoming excellent followers of His lead, he will empower us to do things beyond our normal abilities and experiences.
And then, when we lead others spiritually, we teach out of what we have learned and experienced; for good or bad, we reproduce out of what we are. Consequently, as we strive to become more like Jesus - our heavenly leader - we become better equipped to lead others.
Romans 12:1-2 (MSG) - So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work,and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking.Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out.Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.